I often hear from people who can’t help but notice that their husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend has been increasingly sending and receiving text messages. However, when they go to check up on those texts, they’ve often been deleted or erased.

I often hear comments like: “my husband will go and try to find privacy when he’s texting. I’ll see he has a mischievous and excited look on his face and I get a feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach. But, when I get a hold of the phone later to see who he’s been texting and what he’s been saying, I find that he’s deleted his entire history. He also does not like to part with the phone and mostly keeps it on him at all times. What is going on? Should I be concerned that he’s cheating on me and using his cell phone to do it?”

These concerns are most definitely valid. Statistics show that it’s increasingly common for people to get caught cheating from their cell phones. And, it’s very tempting for cheaters to sending playful and flirtatious texts to someone who you are cheating with. Plus, the cheater often thinks that all they have to do is hit the delete button to erase all evidence of wrongdoing. (This assumption can be just plain wrong.)

If you confront your loved one about the deleted texts, they’ll often tell you that they were trying to save memory on their phone or that it’s just their habit not to let their messages clutter up their phone. And, I suppose there are cases where this is a valid excuse. But, it will often help to look at how soon after the message’s use that they are actually deleting it. It’s less problematic if they let the message sit there for days or weeks before they get around to erasing it. But, if they’re erasing immediately after it’s sent or received, then this becomes a good bit more suspicious.

If your loved one is even reasonably tech savvy (and they likely are if they’re constantly messaging,) then they likely know that they can easily set their phone to automatically delete old messages after a specified period of time so that having to go in and manually do this is really over kill.

What To Do When Your Loved One Is Constantly Deleting Their Texts: As I see it, you have a few choices here. You can ask or confront them about this, but I have to tell you that an extremely large majority of cheaters will firmly deny any wrong doing. You can ask yourself if there are any places where you’re seeing odd behaviors (like at the computer) and then try to follow up and check those places. You can also check the call log, photos, and sent emails. There is software that allows you to go back in and read the texts and only you can decide if you want to take this that far.…

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Startup programs may be one of the most important reasons why your computer may have slowed down. A slow startup in windows can be an indicator that your computer may be facing a few problems. Computers can get exposed to various problems that you may not be aware of and they can easily affect the speed of your computer and its performance over time. In order to ensure that your computer will continue to work effectively over time you will have to maintain it regularly by making several adjustments, removing files and install useful software.

Why Would You Need to Maintain Your Startup Programs?

Over time, your computer will accumulate various unwanted files and programs that would not be useful for you. These files can take up a lot of space on your hard drive so that there would be not enough space available for your operating system to work properly. Because of this, the speed of your computer may suffer quite a lot. Also, you may not be aware that when you switch on your computer, there may be a few unwanted programs that may get automatically started and may take up a lot of your valuable time. If your computer is taking too much time to start up then it is an indication that you will have to take some time to review your startup menu to check for programs that you do not require and then remove them.

Managing Startup Programs

In order to remove the programs in your startup menu that you do not need you will simply have to type msconfig in the "Run" option and press enter. You will receive a list of all the applications in the startup menu of your computer. Check all of these programs and remove the ones that you do not use or do not need in your startup. You should also remove automatic updates since it will start checking for updates as soon as your computer is switched on and will use up a lot of CPU time and will slow down the computer.

You will also have to defrag your hard drive regularly. If your hard disk is fragmented it may cause slower startups. You will have to locate the fragmented files scattered on your hard drive. It may be quite difficult for you to perform this function if you are not really experienced with computers. You will also need to check your computer regularly for viruses and malware. The maintenance work for your computer and the process of managing the programs in the startup menu may seem to be a little time consuming. However, there are several software programs available today that can automatically manage your startup programs for you. …

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