What Causes an Adult Child’s Inability to Belong?

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An adult child may spend a good portion of his pre-recovery life on the outside, looking in, yet never understand how others seem so comfortable and connectable with each other. The need to bond with others and, indirectly, the whole and home from which his soul came is intrinsic and God-given.

“Most human beings have an instinctive need to fit in,” according to the Al-Anon text, “Courage to Change” (Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., 1992, p. 361). “The urge to belong, to keep the peace, helps us get along with others and be a part of society. This instinct has allowed many civilizations to survive… “

While this may be both a natural and logical need, it may be little more than an unattainable theory to an adult child, whose development was arrested and whose reactions stretch as far back as his initial parental or primary caregiver betrayal, shame, and trauma.

Several reasons can be cited as to why.

That original trauma, first and foremost, may have left him as a resource-less infant with no ability to protect himself or escape the danger the very parents who should have nurtured him created, leaving him little choice but to spiritually flee within and tuck his soul into the cocooned inner child sanctuary, which remains mired at its time of impact.

Substituting this true or authentic self with a false or pseudo one, he is unable to connect with others and, indirectly, God or a Higher Power of his understanding. Indeed, the substituted ego, as has often been dissected, only “edges God out.”

Chaotic, unsafe, and unpredictable upbringings, secondly, only breed mistrust, leaving the person to subconsciously believe that those he will later encounter in his life will subject him to the same predatory attacks and danger he experienced in childhood, since he has little or no experience with environments that were stable and in which he was not the target of his parent’s anger and hatred.

Because these circumstances have most likely resulted in a post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) condition, leaving his protective radar high and causing his chronic hypervigilance, this dynamic, along with his inherent mistrust, causes him to maintain his distance from others. He repels intimacy and his relationships become superficial.

He can, for instance, be in a room with a dozen others, yet feel alone and isolated, because he cannot find a crack in his defensive wall that will allow them in.

If I couldn’t trust my own allegedly loving and protecting parents, he may reason, then how can I trust them?

His detrimental upbringing, which he justified as having been the result of his own intrinsic flaws and unlovability as a person and which further shattered his self-esteem because of its demoralizing nature, additionally diminished his value, leaving him to believe that he is not worthy enough to be with others. If he cannot connect with them, how can he feel equal and up-to-par with them?

This lack of worth was equally reinforced by the abusing parent …

How to Use DISH Network’s SAT Auto-Tune Feature

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Who benefits from this feature? DISH Network customers that come across a snowy, blue, or black screen. These issues often occur because of the wrong TV channel, especially on TV2, and the use of SAT Auto-Tune helps prevent this issue from occurring.

This preventative feature is available on newer DISH Network remote controls which allow customers to return to watching television with a single button from the remote control. This corrects the TV channel used for satellite viewing. When the SAT button is pressed, the remote sends that channel to the TV. In order to use this feature, first program the remote to operate the TV, then program in the correct channel for the TV, and finally enable (for 5.3 and 6.3 remote controls.)

Setting SAT Auto-Tune Channel

Note: These steps can also be used to change the channel used for SAT Auto-Tune.

  1. Program the remote control to operate the TV.
  2. Press and hold TV until all four mode buttons are lit.
  3. Press STAR (), then enter the channel used for viewing satellite TV. For example, if the TV needs to be on channel 60, enter 60.
  4. Press POUND (#). The TV button flashes times to indicate programming was successful.

Enabling

  1. Press and hold SAT for three seconds until all four mode buttons are lit.
  2. Press STAR (), then press Volume UP.
  3. Press POUND (#). The SAT button flashes three times to indicate it was enabled.

Disabling

  1. Press and hold SAT for three seconds until all four mode buttons are lit.
  2. Press STAR (), then press VOLUME DOWN.
  3. Press POUND (#), The SAT button flashes three times to indicate it was disabled.

Compatible Remote Controls:

3.4 IR

4.4IR

5.3IR

5.4IR

6.3IR/UHF Pro

6.4IR/UHF Pro

20.0 IR

21.0 IR/UHF Pro

Considerations

Default is Disabled on the 5.3 and 6.3 remote controls.

Default is Enabled on the 3.4, 4.4, 5.4, 6.4, 20.0 and 21.0 remote controls.

In order to function correctly, the correct channel for the installation must be programmed into the remote using the steps under Setting SAT Auto-Tune Channel.

This feature can only send a channel to the TV, not an input. Because of this, SAT Auto-Tune is most useful for TV2. If used for TV1, channel 3 or 4 should be programmed using the steps under Setting SAT Auto-Tune Channel.

The TV Channel programmed for SAT Auto-Tune is also the channel that will be sent to the TV if the RECOVER button is used. The steps in Setting SAT Auto-Tune Channel can also be used in VCR mode to program the channel sent to a VCR during the Recover process.

*Earlier versions of the 5.3 and 6.3 remotes (part numbers 142301, 143037, and 143129) are not supported.

Removing

  1. Press and hold TV until all four mode buttons are lit.
  2. Press STAR (), then enter 00
  3. Press POUND (#). The TV button flashes three times to indicate programming was removed.

What Are Your Children Really Watching?

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Saturday mornings. Cold cereal and Scooby Doo. How many parents started out our childhood weekends with this simple ritual? The trick was to wake up early enough to see all of the Saturday morning cartoons because after 10 am, the children's programming was over until Sunday night's Wonderful World of Disney show came on.

My kids also like to get up on Saturday morning and watch cartoons. And on Sunday. And Monday … and Tuesday … You know the rest. While I had only a couple of channels to choose from, my kids have access to 24 hour children's programming on several channels, compliments of cable television. If you have a satellite dish, your children have access to even more programming.

More is better, right? Well, not always. With this abundance of television stations, we need to remember that not all television programming is appropriate for all audiences.

There are many parents and grandsparents who had the perspective that if it was a cartoon show the kids were watching, it was ok. Cartoon violence? Well, who has not seen that coyote catch an anvil with his head for the umpteenth time?

The fact of the matter is, when many parents were growing up, with our limited television choices, a little cartoon violence did not seem to make too much of a difference. Now our kids can choose to watch cartoon violence 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And it is not just anvils dropping out of the clear blue sky anymore. What kind of violence exists in the cartoons our kids are watching? No, Scooby Doo does not go into a rabid rage and maul Shaggy when there are no more Scooby Snacks. But kid's shows have battles, fights, explosions and characters making threats to injure or kill each other. And our kids are choosing to watch this programming over and over again.

So how can we help our kids to make better choices? Most families are unwilling to go cold turkey and give up all television programming, although I give KUDOS to those that are brave enough to do it. You've heard it before – limit what your kids are watching. But I'd like to add one more piece of advice: teach your children how to choose programs that are acceptable to you and your family's values. This seems to be the piece that is missing from most articles I read today on the issue of television viewing and children.

How do we do this? As you know, most television shows now carry a rating to give you an idea of ​​the type of content (TV-Y, TV-Y7, TV-G, TV-PG, TV-14 and TV-MA). Content descriptors have also been added to this system to give you additional information. These descriptors indicate the presence of suggestive dialogue (D), sexual behavior (S), foul language (L), or violence (V). These ratings can be used as a starting point for determining if a television show is appropriate for your child or family.

Be …

CC5 Overview – E-Commerce Shopping Cart Software Review

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Could hardly contain the excitement with the long-awaited release and upload of the new CubeCart 5. The popular shopping cart software from Develion has long been a personal favourite for e-Commerce web design, as one of the most flexible, easy to use and stable of all the carts currently available

Upon installation the first change to notice is the new skins which come pre-installed and there are 5 in total. As with previous versions of Cube Cart these skins are not polished web designs, but offer a selection of layouts and colour variations which can provide a basic foundation to build upon. Essentially the core templates cover a range of layouts which your web designers can develop to present how you would like your shop to look and upon test drive, we found the new management of files, cascading style sheets and coding highly refined and easier to manipulate than CC4, while a professional working knowledge of the system is still required

The new control panel is a terrific addition to the backend administration area of CC5. Although functional in management terms, the previous versions had servilely lacked the cosmetic possibilities of modern design and presented shop data in way which required a custom re design and code development to achieve a layout, functionality which is better suited to some online stores. Virtually every aspect of store management can now be controlled in real-time via the dashboard and this shows at a glance statistics and notifications for orders, reviews and stock level monitoring

As with previous versions there is no limit to the amount of products and categories the administrator can upload and the management of items is far more simplified with new additions, such as a manufactures field and condition (new/used etc). From popular 3rd party installations to suit earlier versions, there is now a better multi category assignment, improved options and image management tools which was very much demanded. Pleased to see the layout of the admin sections is separated up into folders, delivering a simplified review/edit. It is much improved!

New CC5 can connect to Sage integration, this enables data to be exported and imported although we have not test driven this module as yet. The cart programming code is mostly PHP and declared to offer a better flexibility to extend the product in a variety of ways, thus improving the core CubeCart engine in which ever direction desired. Being open source the CubeCart web designer is free to develop the code, to customise programming to client specifications and even write your own plugins and modules

The programmers have improved upon CC’s search engine optimisation management by allowing custom search engine friendly URL’s to be input and customised to match the keywords and phrases which you may be targeting. In previous versions we had to custom build and install this feature, therefore we are certainly pleased to see this now integrated. Administrators can state the meta title, description and keywords which is essential for those taking advantage …

Learn Spanish Downloads – Learn Conversational Spanish in 2 Months

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Spanish has become one of the most popular languages besides French and English. Everywhere you go, there are people speaking Spanish, there are at least 2 TV channels for Spanish speaking programming. Public transportation in many cities have their notices in English and Spanish.

That’s why a great way to become fluent in Spanish is using the lessons to learn Spanish downloads that cover grammar, vocabulary and most importantly, conversation and pronunciation.

At the end of the day, what most people are interested in is being able to carry a conversation fluently and without having to carry a dictionary under their arm.

Once you have decided to learn Spanish, you are faced with three choices. You can go to an established school, you can hire a private tutor or you can download a course from the internet.

Each choice has an advantage and in the end, it all depends on what your needs are and how disciplined are you to learn on your own. Going to a school requires of time and money. If you are busy with work or other activities this might not be the best alternative.

Hiring a private tutor will be good for those with a good size budget and the time to sit down with the tutor at the same time every time.

If you choose to follow learn Spanish downloads and its components, you can do so at your own pace and the time that is convenient for you. These downloads will included grammar and vocabulary and audio and video lessons for you to follow along and make sure that you are learning the correct pronunciation for all the phrases.…

JavaScript for Web Design – Advantages and Disadvantages

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This article discusses the good and the bad points of using JavaScript in your website designs. It points out the areas where JavaScript excels as a web based programming language and also describes situations where its use can actually detract from the performance of a website.

First of all, JavaScript is a browser based programming language that actually runs client side. This means that any code that you write in JavaScript is delivered along with your web pages and the scripts that you write actually run from within the users’ browser rather than directly on the server that is serving the web page. There are situations where JavaScript is an excellent solution for implementing neat features in a web design but there are also situations where using JavaScript can hurt your websites performance. It is my aim in this article to describe the best ways to use JavaScript and how to circumnavigate the downsides of using this versatile and powerful scripting language.

JavaScript for Web Design – The Advantages

JavaScript is an excellent solution to implement when validating input forms on the client side. This means that if a user forgets to enter his name in a form for instance a JavaScript validation function can popup a message to let him know about the omission. This is a far better solution that having a server side validation routine handle the error because the server does not have to do any additional processing. An asp or php routine could be written to achieve the same task but the JavaScript would not allow the form to be submitted unless it was completed properly in the first place, a much more robust solution!

Another area where JavaScript excels is in the creation of dynamic effects such as rollover images and scripted slideshows, where its use has become commonplace. Because JavaScript runs inside the clients browser it can be used to change the appearance of the users screen after the page has been sent by the server. This allows it to create some very impressive dynamic image effects.

JavaScript for Web Design – The Disadvantages

One of the major draw backs to using JavaScript is that it tends to severely bloat web pages. JavaScript code can quickly add up to hundreds of lines of code if you are using it to do anything even remotely interesting. That said the problem of large chunks of JavaScript code is easily solved by storing the JavaScript code off into separate JavaScript source files that have a .js extension. This cleans up your web page code because the JavaScript code is stored separately to the HTML page itself, leaving a much cleaner and more readable web page.

Because of JavaScript’s tendency to bloat web pages it can be very detrimental to the search engine friendliness of your web site. This is because when a search engine arrives at your site looking for quality content and keywords to determine what your page is al about, the last thing it …

Steps to Becoming a Great Website Designer

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Many individuals may have entry level web designer skills, especially as so many now complete their own design projects, including everything from the creation of personal blogs to family-related or business-driven websites. The working knowledge of the web that the average younger person contains within his or her mind is impressive; however, the process of becoming a professional level designer is significantly more complex than most people realize.

Do not mistake the skills you have as being the only ones of merit in obtaining designer jobs. Even if you have achieved a significant degree of knowledge and skills within the web design field, there is always so much more that you can learn. And with the ever-changing and constantly advancing technologies in the IT and web design industries, you'll never run out of new things to learn or new challenges to meet, even after completing a formal education and years of practical work experience.

Many younger people understand the basics of HTML, though few have advanced HTML skills. Learning the ins and outs of higher level HTML, including frames and tables, DHTML, style sheets and other skills, is part of what is achieved through undergraduate programs with technical schools, colleges and universities.

Most web designer jobs with reputable firms require a minimum of a bachelor's degree. You will need to master not only HTML but many other cruel design and programming skills. Although web designers primarily focus on the appearance and character of the website design, it is possible to merge programming and design skills and, in fact, some of the most highly thought after designers are those who are both designer and programmer.

The ability to complete the seen and unseen parts of a website design makes you a more highly valued employee in many instances. Employers are happy to have both skill sets in one individual, especially as this means that the designer / programmer is able to fully integrate all of the aesthetic and technical elements of a webpage in a cohesive, beautiful, and fully-functional manner.

As more and more businesses are taking advantage of newer technologies, it is becoming even more important that those working in web designer jobs understand how to create web content that can transfer easily and attractively to other formats. As the multimedia focus in digital design continues to expand, designers with multiple skill sets will be even more highly valued in the future job market.

A formal education in the field is only the first step to obtaining jobs in the web design industry. Since the technology and methodology of web design is ever changing, much of your learning in the field will occur on the job. For this reason, practical, real world experience in design and programming is also quite highly valued by employers. Part-time jobs, hobby designing, and internships – whether paid or unpaid – are all legitimate ways to gain practical experience before obtaining any full-time web designer jobs. …

ASP.NET Uncovered

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ASP.NET is a web development platform which is used to cater a programming model, along with comprehensive software framework and various other services that are required to build up powerful web applications for Desktop, as well as mobile devices.

It runs on HTTP protocol, which uses commands and policies to define a browser-to-server bilateral communication and cooperation environment.

It is a part of Microsoft.com’s dot net platform. The applications in asp dot net are compiled codes, and are written using the expandable and renewable factors or objects present in .Net framework.

The ASP.NET application codes are written using in any of the following languages:

  • C#
  • Visual Basic.Net
  • Jscript
  • J#

This platform is used to yield interactive as well as data-driven web applications on the internet. It includes a variety of controls such as text boxes, buttons, and labels that can be used for accumulate, construct, and Wield codes to create HTML pages.

Components of .net Framework

  • Common Language Runtime or CLR: Asp.net come with a CLR function that helps it in memory management, debugging, security check, code execution, verification, code safety, compilation and exception handling. The code that is directly managed by the CLR is known as managed code.
  • Common Language Specification: Asp.net has those essential specifications that are required for the .Net supported languages and also for the implementation of language integration.
  • Common Type System: It caters to those guidelines that are required for declaring, using, and managing types at runtime, and also for cross-language communication.
  • Dot.Net Framework Class Library: It comes with a huge library which has reusable types. These types include classes, interfaces, structures, and enumerated values collectively.
  • Windows Forms: It includes graphical and extensive representation of any window that is displayed in the application.
  • Metadata and Assemblies: Metadata is the binary information that describes the program, and is either stored in a portable executable file (PE) or in memory. Assemblies are logical units that comprise of the assembly manifest, type metadata, IL codes, and other resources like image files.
  • Windows Communication Foundation (WCF): It is the technology that is used to build and execute connected systems for web applications.
  • Windows Presentation Foundation: This presents a distinction the user interface and the business logic. It aids to develop interfaces that are visually stunning and are built using documents, media, two and three dimensional graphics, animations, and more.
  • Windows CardSpace: This provides a safe platform for accessing vital resources and sharing personal information on the internet. This helps us to make a safe and secure platform.
  • LINQ: It communicates data querying capabilities to other .Net languages that are using a syntax which is similar to the traditional query language SQL.
  • ADO.NET: It is the technology that is utilized for working with data and extensive databases. It provides an access to data sources like SQL server, OLE DB, XML etc. for retrieving, manipulating, and updating data.

Difference between ASP.NET and ASP.NET AJAX

ASP.NET is a web development model whereas AJAX is an extension of ASP.NET that …

Top 5 Trending Programming Languages to Develop Mobile Applications

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With time, mobile technology is rapidly growing and impacting the diverse business sectors worldwide. The necessity to entertainment – almost everything is easily available at your fingertips due to such revolutionary enhancements in the app development industry. A successful app development process needs proper market research, efficient planning and strategy, budgeting and so on. However, the most crucial part is to pick the right programming language to devise your application. Here is a list of 5 trending programming languages to give a physical shape to your visions.

#1 HTML5

If you are looking for such a programming language that can effortlessly develop web-fronted applications for the mobile devices, nothing can really outplay HTML5. With the efficient help of it, inserting various types of data, rationalising the response parameters etc. become much easier and smoother. More interestingly, using this programming language, the app development process becomes cost-effective as well. The only issue with this remarkably efficient language is that HTML5 is still at the proposed standard stage. However, this has not affected the immense popularity of HTML5 to build feature-rich apps in today’s market.

#2 C++

Even though the mobile technology is emerging in a remarkable way, when it comes to point of devising any dynamic and feature-rich mobile application, till date, most of the developers consider using this utterly efficient programming language i.e. C++. With the help of C++, developing any cutting-edge mobile application for platforms like Windows and Android become extremely easy. This language is popular for the low-level programming. Well, you cannot ignore the fact that C++ is not that much trendy or chic compared to the other handful of various options available in today’s tech-savvy era. However, due to being extremely easy to carry out, C++ is dominating the entire programming world from much before the smartphones hit the market.

#3 Swift

For developing compelling iOS applications, most of the iOS developers are considering to use this programming language. Writing code for the latest APIs of Apple’s such as Cocoa Touch and Cocoa becomes absolutely smoother and easier using Swift. The most amazing feature of this language is that you can effortlessly avert most of the security vulnerabilities associated with the other programming language i.e. Objective-C.

#4 Java

In case of Android mobile app development, this is arguably the most preferred programming language. There are two distinct ways to run Java. Either you can run it through any virtual machine without any browser or you can run it in a browser window. While updating software and reusing the code, this flexibility offers a huge advantage. Although this programming language won’t help to devise iOS mobile applications, for cross-platform mobile application development, Java is certainly one of the best choices.

#5 C#

This programming language is undoubtedly the best choice for developing any mobile application on the Windows platform. This is an undeniable fact that the Windows Phone platform is not popular as the other game-changer platforms like iOS and Android. However, for the dedicated Microsoft users, this …

Software Development Life Cycle – Introduction Model Stages and Advantages

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What is the Software Development Life Cycle (SDLC)?

SDLC or Software Development Life Cycle is essentially the process or phases of a model or methodology, which software engineers and developers follow in developing an application or software. In simpler words, it is a process consisting of a series of planned activities for planning, creating, testing, deploying and maintenance of software.

SDLC is often referred as software development process, as it consists of all tasks, which needs to be followed while developing an application or software. SDLC is followed within IT development companies to develop, alter, replace or enhance the performance of the software. ISO/IEC 12207 is an international standard for SDLC, which ensures high quality of the newly developed software. It also helps IT development companies in improving the overall quality of their software development services.

What are the major SDLC Models, followed in the IT Industry?

There are various SDLS models, which are currently followed in the IT Industry. Often referred as ‘Software Development Process Models’, all the process models follow unique software development steps, ensuring 100% success of the development projects.

The major software development life cycle models are-

  • Waterfall Model
  • Iterative Model
  • Spiral Model
  • V-Model
  • Big Bang Model

Other related models are Rapid Application Development (RAD), Prototype and Agile Models.

The advantages of choosing an appropriate Software Development Life Cycle (SDLC)-

  • Increased Product Quality
  • Increased Development Speed
  • Improved Client Relations
  • Improved Tracking & Control
  • Decreased Project Risks
  • Decreased Project Management Overhead

What are the different stages of SDLC?

Stage 1:

Planning and Requirement Analysis

This is the most important stage in the SDLC. This stage needs input from the customers, sales team, industry experts, a marketing team and their survey reports. After which, senior business managers and developers of a software development company plan the project approach and the development model.

Stage 2:

Designing

After the analysis of requirements and finalizing the Design Document Specification (DDS), the product architecture is designed by an expert team. This architecture has to stand upon various parameters such as budget, time, product robustness, risk assessment and design modularity, after which it is considered for the development.

Stage 3:

Development

The actual development of the software or application starts at this stage. The team of engineers and developers follow the coding guidelines set by the organization and use different tools for code generation. The programming code is generated as per the details documented in the DDS. The developers use different high level programming languages as per the requirement.

Stage 4:

Testing

In this stage, the final product goes through a pre-defined road of testing, where defects or bugs in the product are reported and then fixed by the developers. This stage ensures that the final product meets the highest quality standards, which are accepted worldwide.

Stage 5:

Deployment

At this stage, the final product is deployed at the client base. At times, the software is integrated with the client’s current application and database. All the deployment and integration works are done under …